In thinking about relationships, I think it impossible to find a human being without baggage of some kind. Baggage is simply what we have collected and kept with us out of desire or need to posses it. Sometimes it is something we consciously choose...sometimes it is something we don't know how to look at so we just toss it in the bag and keep walking. Each person walking, collecting... every day they get the chance to live and be here adds something, or maybe its the process of releasing pieces to make room for something we assume we will treasure more... but are destined to release in the future...
ALL that obscurity aside... when looking for a mate, don't seek to find someone without baggage... instead just look for someone with baggage that matches your own. That way when you both go home at night you can each drop your bags in the middle of the room in plain sight... knowing what it is in its familiarity and simply accepting it. Then its not a hurdle to be explained away...yes, EVEN when company comes over. Worst case... shoot for something that at least coordinates... because there is no way someone that has blue plaid luggage will understand or embrace your beloved orange paisley... but orange stripes just might work.
Monday, August 9, 2010
Monday, April 26, 2010
Lost wisdom?
In order to preserve the "wisdom(?)" I have gained in my 6 year Mom training intensive, I wanted to share...
1) It is more important to park next to the cart return than the front door or the store when grocery shopping with small kids.
2) Sippy cups that are easy to clean outrank ones that "never" leak.
3) If its moldy... throw it out. Don't care what it is, but it will never be the same.
4) From the minute they are born, children takes small steps towards independence, and thusly small steps away from you.
5) If kids are hungry they will eat and a hungry kid with a snack is a content one... even at the DMV.
6) Attempting to prematurely anticipate needs frustrates and overloads kids. Need is not a bad thing... Never feeling in need teaches kids that feeling in need is to be avoided at all costs... when in reality in life it is the hungry man that seeks food. Where else does natural motivation grow more vibrantly? Learning to listen to, accept and address t voices of need within us is a step towards a more fufilled life is it not?
7) An extra outfit and a towel in the car is never a bad idea. Ever.
8) Newborns are amazing hands down , but when weighed against a kid covered in gosh knows what rainbow sticky goo grinning from ear to ear in the pride of thier "creation" there is no clear winner.
9) My kids are the greatest ever...period.
10) Sometimes there is shit on the floor. Literaly. Yes, Its gross...no way around it. It just IS.
11) I have learned the most from those that I like the least...and soemtimes from the ugly parts of those I love the most.
12) My grandparents have been in most of my beloved childhood memories. I have them AND my parents to thank for that.
13) You don't exactly have the right to happiness... but you have RIGHT NOW the choice to find the happiness in the moment you are standing in RIGHT now. Even if it is just the cup of coffee you have wedged between to hands that are white knuckling tight as you absorb the high pitched screams of your morning starting off in the wrong direction.
14) Sometimes, you need to give them an Ice Cream sundae. Just because it is the RIGHT thing to do.
15) Strive to be who, where and what you want to be, but don't forget to love who you are because that is who will carry you there.
16) SLeep is divine.
17) Let them just be, so wen they grow up they know how to breathe.
1) It is more important to park next to the cart return than the front door or the store when grocery shopping with small kids.
2) Sippy cups that are easy to clean outrank ones that "never" leak.
3) If its moldy... throw it out. Don't care what it is, but it will never be the same.
4) From the minute they are born, children takes small steps towards independence, and thusly small steps away from you.
5) If kids are hungry they will eat and a hungry kid with a snack is a content one... even at the DMV.
6) Attempting to prematurely anticipate needs frustrates and overloads kids. Need is not a bad thing... Never feeling in need teaches kids that feeling in need is to be avoided at all costs... when in reality in life it is the hungry man that seeks food. Where else does natural motivation grow more vibrantly? Learning to listen to, accept and address t voices of need within us is a step towards a more fufilled life is it not?
7) An extra outfit and a towel in the car is never a bad idea. Ever.
8) Newborns are amazing hands down , but when weighed against a kid covered in gosh knows what rainbow sticky goo grinning from ear to ear in the pride of thier "creation" there is no clear winner.
9) My kids are the greatest ever...period.
10) Sometimes there is shit on the floor. Literaly. Yes, Its gross...no way around it. It just IS.
11) I have learned the most from those that I like the least...and soemtimes from the ugly parts of those I love the most.
12) My grandparents have been in most of my beloved childhood memories. I have them AND my parents to thank for that.
13) You don't exactly have the right to happiness... but you have RIGHT NOW the choice to find the happiness in the moment you are standing in RIGHT now. Even if it is just the cup of coffee you have wedged between to hands that are white knuckling tight as you absorb the high pitched screams of your morning starting off in the wrong direction.
14) Sometimes, you need to give them an Ice Cream sundae. Just because it is the RIGHT thing to do.
15) Strive to be who, where and what you want to be, but don't forget to love who you are because that is who will carry you there.
16) SLeep is divine.
17) Let them just be, so wen they grow up they know how to breathe.
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